Put the prison plate down!!!
I'm not talking about the plate of food that's probably in your lap right now, but we'll get into that in just a second. About a week or so ago I went live on Facebook asking some of my friends a question that we should start asking ourselves more "Why do we tend to accept less than our worth"? I don't present myself enough with that question, because let's face it....it's a whole heck of a lot easier to just up and avoid it all together ESPECIALLY when you've been doing it your whole life....it's just second nature. Many of us, will accept mediocre style jobs and live paycheck to paycheck, mediocre relationships, just to say we have a boyfriend/girlfriend, and mediocre friendships, just to avoid being lonely. WHY THOUGH?! Some of us know that we deserve top notch and cream of the crop, but we settle for slop lacking substance and any nutritional value to our lives. We allow for these jobs to slowly eat away at our happiness, and we begin to literally DREAD the thought of getting up and clocking in. We allow for relationships to cloud or common sense and sight, and begin to slowly eat away at our confidence and self-worth. We allow our friends and all of their constant negativity, to slowly become a part of our lives, and before we know it we are also sad, mad and depressed over a situation that only our friends can get themselves out of. I like to compare that to being in prison. We have nowhere to go because we feel trapped in our situations. Torn between hurting someone you love/care about by just leaving......but also wanting to seek better and find our happiness. When you are in prison, you are served 3 square meals a day....You can't just go up to the line and say "I'm sorry but no chicken for me today, I'll have the steak". YOU GET WHAT YOU GET!!! The beauty for us is.....we are free....We don't "have" to accept what is given to us....but many of us do (myself included). We have to learn to put the plate down, and walk away! We do not HAVE to take what is given to us! We have control over our life and our happiness; we just have to work at regaining that torch. Rome was not....I repeat NOT built in a day, so the process may take some time....but as long as you work at it, and learn to put yourself and your happiness first, you can and WILL kick the plate!!! Check please!!
Let it Flow...
Soooo, on this post it may get a bit weird lol, but BARE WITH ME, I promise it will all make sense. Our bodies are some amazing works of art, both externally and internally! Did you know that our intestines are around 20 FEET LONG?! cool right?....but that leaves room for a CRAP LOAD of ....well CRAP!!! Doctors advise that a normal healthy gut should cause you to go #2 anywhere from 3 times a day, to 3 times a week. Anything less, and you may be dealing with some issues. Have you ever had a cramp or constipation due to being "backed up"? Everyone has at some point, and I am here to tell ya, that it is NOT FUN, comfortable, and it can become TOXIC! Same goes with dealing with our problems and issues externally! Ever been upset or mad about something, but you haven't been given the opportunity to deal with it, or resolve it so you just kind of leave it as a "to do" for later. Most of us have busy lives, from work, to parenting, to other unforeseen circumstances. Those issues prevent us from handling the stressors that need to be dealt with and in return "build up".....just like the crap in our colon. In this case you're gonna be dealing with a lot more than a hurt tummy. Holding in stress can cause acne, depression, and suicidal thoughts! YIKES! Another reason people keep what ails them "inside" is so that they do not step on any toes, or offend people. As an adult I have learned that YOU are the most important person in life, and have to deal with YOURSELF day in and day out, so if someone can't respectfully handle their part of contributing to your stress, then they need to be removed from your life. My biggest problem that I have been dealing with my WHOLE LIFE, is that I have always wanted to be "liked". I am guilty of being a people pleaser, and will put other peoples happiness, above my own. I don't ever expect anything in return, but the sad reality is....I never get anything in return....not ever. It would be nice to receive what I give in return. I am still working on learning the word "no", and not caring after it is said, but for whatever reason that is hard for me. I hope I am not alone on this journey to "self worth" and "happiness" and if anyone has any suggestions, or advice I AM ALL EARS! Don't let that toxic stuff BACK YOU UP!!!